opposites don’t attract

Jon and I didn’t get along the first three times we met.  Well, okay, he liked me just fine (he kept asking me out, after-all), but I went home and told my friends that he was ‘”a business-type who loved sports and never read books.”  I didn’t think we had much in common, and so I gently explained that ‘although you’re a really nice guy, this probably isn’t going to work’ right after our third day.

He likes caramel.  I like chocolate.  He likes movies.  I like books.  He likes sports.  I like theater.  He likes business.  I like art.  He likes planning.  I like spontaneity.  He likes staying home.  I like going out.

We ended up running into each other at a music festival a few (7) months later, and, despite my belief ‘that we were just too different,’ we ended up making jokes and laughing for nearly an hour.  I learned then that we had the same sense of humor.

He called me after the festival and asked me out to dinner.  I agreed, and we spent the entire meal talking about our brothers and sisters.  I learned then that we’re both extremely close to our family.

We spent almost every.single.day together after that dinner, and we began discovering how much we had in common: we were both sincere, motivated, loyal, and easy-going.  I began to realize that surface level descriptors like “business-type who loves sports and never reads books” doesn’t really tell you anything about a person’s core.  Soon enough, I learned that we were identical when it came to important things like values, believes, and, of course, a sense of humor.

Our differences allow us to step outside our comfort zone and try new things — little foray’s into the other person’s world, if you will.   I’ve always enjoyed making homemade chocolates, for example, but since Jon doesn’t like chocolate (IMAGINE THAT) I spent today learning how to make caramels.

My experiment is your gain — these caramels are soft, chewy, and delicious.   Trust me: even a chocolate-lover can appreciate this gooey goodness.  The recipe is below:
Here is the recipe:
-2 cups white sugar
-1 cup brown sugar
1/2 cup of water
-2 tbs of white corn syrup
-1 stick of butter
-3/4 cup of heavy whipping cream

Mix sugar, water, and 1/2 stick of butter in a pan and bring to a low boil.  When the mixture is at hard crack (You could use a candy thermometer want wait for the temperate to reach 300 degrees Fahrenheit , or  you can wait use s a glass of water to test the temperature.  If using the glass of water, drop a few drops of the hot caramel into a glass, and if it sticks together you’re good to go).   Take the caramel off the heat and add the other half of the butter and the heavy cream.   Put back on the heat until boil reaches 240 degrees (or when you drop in water it forms a ball that feels soft but still holds together).   Finally, pour batter onto buttered parchment paper and let cool for an hour.   You’re done 🙂

Artwork by the lovely Rhianna Wurman.

17 thoughts on “opposites don’t attract

  1. This post made me swoon! I think having these surface differences is important because it allows you both to have your own independence within the relationship. Also like you said, what a great way to try new things! Core values are the most important, so glad you two were brought together again! 🙂

  2. i am a chocolate girl, but i love really good caramel…yummy!! and i agree with you, as long as you have the same core beliefs, all other superficial things can be opposite, and create a good mix for a couple!

  3. Awww, for not valentines day this is such a sweet post! I would love to make carmels, but it completely intimidates me! Did you read “Girl, Interrupted”? They make carmel in that book and I’m totally scared to try it.

  4. Oh yum, these sound so good! I have a great fear of making caramel at home that I just need to get over because look at how awesome these are 🙂 Also, I love this: “Our differences allow us to step outside our comfort zone and try new things.” Amen to that! Warren and I are also pretty polar opposite on a lot of things on the surface but on the things that matter–life goals, values, etc.–we match perfectly.

  5. It’s funny how sometimes the differences between two people help to pull out the deeper and more important things that they have in common. The universe is pretty cool in that way 😉 And by the way, I’d be very happy with caramel AND chocolate, thank you very much!

  6. Adorable story! I’m glad he didn’t give up and asked you out to dinner months later! Boys can be so pesky and stubborn sometimes… 😉
    These caramels look delicious. And dangerous to have sitting out on the counter….OH BOY…! 🙂

  7. i love this post. as someone who is just re-entering the dating world, i need the reminder that just because i don’t fall in love with someone the first time i meet them doesn’t mean i shouldn’t give them a chance. 🙂 your blog always inspires me!

  8. Such a lovely story!
    My mom always told me: If you’re a roller coaster, look for a merry-go-round for a mate or vice versa (meaning if you’re a free spirit, look for someone more grounded). I like to think that my husband and I are equal parts merry-go-round and roller coaster, but at different ends of the spectrum. We share so many similarities but our opposites are what, in essence, keep the relationship exciting.

  9. I love this post and will make those caramels for sure! 🙂 Your story illustrates how things like books, movies and music don’t make the person. MR N and I met and I saw how we had different tastes in music & books. But as got to know each other these past 13 years, we have learned to appreciates those things. I now love reading about history where before I didn’t care for it. He appreciates mysteries/thrillers and reads them furiously. It’s not about your likes and dislikes that matter… it’s about the heart! 🙂

  10. I think both differences and similarities are so important in a couple. It’d be boring if we were entirely the same but it’d be so frustrating if we were entirely different. I think this post is precious. 🙂

  11. I can so relate to this. On the surface level, and even if you look at families and cultures and backgrounds–Angel and I are so different! Like crazy opposite different! But what intrigued me from the beginning is that in spite of being really, really different from each other, we both had the same core values and the same life goals–we truly understood each other. It was weird!! 🙂

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