sip swirl clink

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I love when other people share good news, and I’ve always found it puzzling that society refers to this as “bragging.” What’s wrong with talking about our joys and sharing our happiness? If you ask me, nothing. Feel free to ring me when you win the lottery or fall in love – I’m going to want the details.

You know what else?  I want to hear about your struggles and hardship, too.  People are not meant to go through life alone, and when we share stories of pain, we remind people in similar situations that they are not alone.

Professor Sonja Lyubomirsky at the University of California, Riverside, researches the nature of human happiness, particularly why some people are happier than others, and how we can train ourselves to be more happy in general. She identifies an individual’s response to social comparison as a key factor for determining their personal happiness.

Her work suggests that happy people are more likely to celebrate the success and good fortune of their friends, while unhappy people are more likely to feel jealous of their nearest and dearest.

Instead of comparing our differences, let’s celebrate them, and each of us can begin to push each other onward and upward.

And, what’s more, we’ll all be a little happier as a result : )

17 thoughts on “sip swirl clink

  1. I love this and I agree with you! Let’s celebrate our victories and hug out our disappointments! In fact, that’s is what friends are for! Thank you for this post, Jen, I needed it today! 🙂

  2. Have you read Sonja’s book ‘The How of Happiness’ … ? So good! I’ve actually read it twice. And I agree, you gotta have the friends that you can celebrate with and the friends you can moan and groan with ;0)

  3. i’m with you on the sharing of good news. i always get excited when i find a new brand to partner for my blog or when i get a lot of page views, and when i tell some people, they act as though i’m bragging. i’m just excited about something i’m passionate about!! 🙂

  4. I don’t like to think of sharing good news as bragging. I think it can be done in a way where you just want to share your joy and not put people off. We should meet up for coffee sometime! Well, I’ll get hot chocolate 🙂

  5. I have read some papers in the past about this philosophy. Too often, we operate out of a scarcity mentality. We think that for every person that succeeds, another person must fail. We think there is a finite amount of joy and happiness to go around and our reactions show it.

    Then, there is the flip side. The abundance mentality. There is an unlimited amount of joy, happiness, and success. We don’t need to feel the need to “compete” for it.

    Yep, thank you very much, I’ll take door #2. It sounds like much more fun 😉 I think that is why I like being a part of this world called the blogosphere. It gives us all the opportunity to share with each other in times of need, whether they are times of joy and happiness or times of disappointment and despair. And, yes, that makes me very content and at peace to be able to share in all of those times. Thanks so much for sharing 🙂

  6. Loved this post! 🙂 Sometimes I don’t want to tell people good things that happen to me, I don’t want to brag or sound arrogant! I agree with celebrating differences, I love meeting people who are different then me! It makes them more exciting, I want to get to know them. 🙂

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