what matters most

A personality test got me thinking personal weaknesses and ways to overcome my shortcomings with strength and grace.  Since I’m prone to restlessnesses and instability, I’ve been meditating on goals and methods of making dreams into reality.  Seems cliche, I suppose, but when you’re prone to wandering and stumbling, it’s all the more important.
Reflection is important, yes, but how often do we sit down and write about what matters most?  You might have an idea of where you want to be in 5 or 10 years, but do you have goals or dreams hanging somewhere you can see them?  On the fridge or by the nightstand or tucked inside your pocket?

Today I sat down and wrote out my goals step-by-step.  It was a bit of a brainstorm at first, but what it simmered down to was simple and honest: I want to fill a small and beautiful home with a great big love.  A love so big, in fact, that it provides a resting place for anyone seeking shelter or hope.  A tall order for a small home, but I’m up for the challenge.

The goal might seem ambiguous, but it’s intended to help me focus on the things that matter most, and to let go of the things that are less important.  I made the above graphic to put words and images to my goal, and to remind me to keep focused and stay true.

Now tell me, what matters most to you?  Where do you fall on the personality quiz?

23 thoughts on “what matters most

  1. A life without love is a life half lived. I think good relationships and experiences are what I consider success. You and I would get along fantastically. 🙂

  2. My hubby and I have done this every couple years and it’s so great to be reminded of what’s important to us. It’s fun to talk about what each of us consider most important in the future! I’m going to have to try a personality test- it’s been ages (since university) and I can’t remember what I fell under.

  3. I think this is exactly where the written word has served me so well. Although I may not have sat down in the past couple years and explicitly spelled out dreams and goals, I have indirectly done so on a weekly basis through the musings of my own blog. Both in the composition of the posts, and in the reflection upon them.

    I think that this is a tremendous exercise for everyone to engage in. It’s in taking the time do this (in whatever way you best see fit) that you realize this particular process is, in itself, one of the most important uses of our time.

    Not too long ago, I saw the quote for the umpteenth time, paraphrased as “Live, laugh, love, make a difference.” My mantra of inspire and be inspired wraps nicely into this quote. Whether it be with family, friends, acquaintances, or complete strangers, I want to pass forth the inspiration and desire to live with these qualities.

    You have a beautiful image to accompany the beautiful goal set forth for yourself. Thanks for sharing 😉

  4. This is great! When I entered college I found that I kept getting hung up on homework, classes, tests, social groups, etc. So I took a step back and decided that what really mattered was people. I decided that I was allowed to try my best in everything, but that when it came right down to it I shouldn’t let myself get upset about all these other things that didn’t matter as much and that focusing on the people around me should be my number one goal. It changed my whole outlook on life! Sometimes I have a bad week and stray from that way thinking for a while, but I always come back to it and I find it to be very grounding and calming. 🙂


  5. That is a beautiful goal. I think I have a very similar goal. It goes hand-in-hand with another goal of mine: to make art that reaches people. In the literal and non-literal sense.

  6. I can’t imagine a higher level of love being attainable in your house Jennifer! You are without a doubt one of the most loving (from what I can e-tell) people alive! It is important to sit down once in a while and reflect on our goals however as to re-prioritize and track our progress. Have a wonderful time hiking this weekend xo

  7. I’ve heard of those different personality categories many times, firstly when I was in psychology class back at university 🙂 I tend to fall between a few boxes more than strictly into one. Mostly sanguine with a significant touch of melancholy at times (very similar to Aaron, funnily enough. Perhaps that’s why we get along so well!). Like you, I do always try to overcome the shortcomings of my personality through God’s grace and personal effort. I think I was born more in the melancholic category but I’ve been working my entire life to eradicate the perfectionism, mostly due to its negative impact upon those I love. Love this reflective post. You are beautiful inside and out Jen, it always inspires me to be a better wife, daughter and friend as I read your posts xxx

  8. I’m definitely Sanguine =) Overly optimistic and positive! it’s important to take time for yourself and reassess your dreams to keep you in step with your dreams and goals (with a little wiggle room for detours of course!) What’s important to me is keeping up with my blog, Instagram, completing my Master’s degree and internship, having a career, and also have room left over for fun, like selling Origami Owl jewelry! =) I love what your answers are! I know we can do it!!

  9. I think it’s so powerful to take the time to really think about what you goal for life is and make sure that the way you’re living is centered around that goal. As for what your goal is–it sounds absolutely perfect for you.
    I’ve said for quite a while that what I want out of life is to live in such a well that I am thoroughly missed when I’m not around anymore. To me, that’s a symbol of having made a real impact on people’s lives–that they’ll notice the loss when I’m gone. And I hope that it is a “loss”, that I’m able to bless people to the extent that when I’m not around people will really say, “Man, too bad Rachel isn’t here…” 🙂

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