gem garden

Make new friends but keep the old – one is silver and the other’s gold.  If you were a girl scout in the late 90’s then you might remember that little rhyme about making and keeping friends. Problem is, my husband doesn’t think the little ditty holds any truth.

We were having brunch on Sunday, and I mentioned that I was joining a new book club.  Jon reminded me that I’m already in two.  Yes, yes, but they only read one book every 3 months, so it’s very manageable.  Okay, but what about your new photography class and your Junior League stuff?  And will you still have time for your volunteer commitments and yoga?  I justify that everything lands on different days and fits together quite nicely.
And then Jon explains: Joining is kind of like making friends – you don’t want to spread yourself too thin.  He says I should focus my time on building close friendships with the people that I care about the most.  In a similar fashion, it’s generally best to master one thing before experimenting with anything else.  A matter of quality over quantity, really.
But as for me? I love meeting new people and making new friends and introducing everyone.  The more the merrier, right?  Same thing with hobbies and activities – I’m always eager to dive-in and try something new.

So what’s the right balance?  Maintain an intimate group of friends, or bring people together? Join lots of activities, or perfect a skill before moving onto something else?
PS- Did you figure out the riddle in the photos?  They are out-takes from a community mural I did last summer.

breaking with balance

I’d rather have a great life than a balanced life.  A stint in the corporate world landed me in half a dozen conversations about the importance of finding the appropriate work/life balance.  These conversations made me want to walk out the office, find a park, and enter Garurasana.

I started working incredibly long hours after I quit my job last May. The freedom and creativity that came with pursuing projects I was passionate about, rather than simply paid to do, was endlessly inspiring.  Now, I truly want to be working, creating, and designing.

If you’re anything like me, your best ideas coming while you’re washing your hair or running around the lakes – so the things that matter, the things that you’re pursuing, need to be constantly on your mind.  If you truly want it, you can’t just be 75% focused.

If you’re begrudgingly working a 9-5 to pay the bills, then use your evenings to build a career you’re passionate about.  Need to take classes after a long day of work? Go for it.  It’ll be worth it in a few months. The goal might seem time consuming now, but remember that the time will pass anyway, and you might as well use the current moment to build a promising future.

Time spent pursuing your goals won’t seem like work.  There will be struggles and challenges, yes, but that is part of the story.  Try, fail, learn, and then try again better.

If you truly want something, break with balance and strive for it with all your heart.
My yoga outfit was designed by Emma and Sarah, two girls so passionate about yoga and fashion that they created their own clothing line, MAI I AM.   MAI I AM sounds fun, and the philosophy behind the brand is even better: it’s built from their mantra, ‘I am enough,” and suggests that loving yourself, as you are, will bring you the most peace.

Writing is my personal passion, and so I will continue to write with passion and without concern for balance: