Make new friends but keep the old – one is silver and the other’s gold. If you were a girl scout in the late 90’s then you might remember that little rhyme about making and keeping friends. Problem is, my husband doesn’t think the little ditty holds any truth.
We were having brunch on Sunday, and I mentioned that I was joining a new book club. Jon reminded me that I’m already in two. Yes, yes, but they only read one book every 3 months, so it’s very manageable. Okay, but what about your new photography class and your Junior League stuff? And will you still have time for your volunteer commitments and yoga? I justify that everything lands on different days and fits together quite nicely.
And then Jon explains: Joining is kind of like making friends – you don’t want to spread yourself too thin. He says I should focus my time on building close friendships with the people that I care about the most. In a similar fashion, it’s generally best to master one thing before experimenting with anything else. A matter of quality over quantity, really.
But as for me? I love meeting new people and making new friends and introducing everyone. The more the merrier, right? Same thing with hobbies and activities – I’m always eager to dive-in and try something new.
So what’s the right balance? Maintain an intimate group of friends, or bring people together? Join lots of activities, or perfect a skill before moving onto something else?
PS- Did you figure out the riddle in the photos? They are out-takes from a community mural I did last summer.